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Designer Vaginas

12 February 2015 17 comments

At a dinner party I recently hosted there was some heated debate on what was considered a 'normal' looking vagina. What started the light hearted hostilities was a comment from a female guest. Returning from the bathroom she'd decided to study one of the erotic art works adorning my apartment walls. With a look of abhorrence she stormed back to the table and expressed her displeasure regarding a large canvas of two naked women. As far as she was concerned one of the women looked gross and abnormal because the inner lips of her vagina (her labia minora) were rather pronounced.

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I noted that my male guests were very guarded in their comments on what the perfect vagina looked like and I understand why. It's a topic that only has one right answer as far as their partner is concerned. I was alone in speaking up on behalf of the women who don't have a neat 'manicured' vagina.

Before I continue I need to revisit an anatomical lesson - the correct name for a woman's outer genitals (that you can see) is the vulva and not vagina. The only part of the vagina that's visible from the outside is the opening. Most of the vagina is actually on the inside of the body and it leads all the way up to the cervix. Given most people conflate the terms vagina and vulva I'll continue to use the term vagina from now on.

Like many parts of a woman's body vaginas come in all shapes and sizes. They're hidden away and aren't too easy for a woman to see without the use of a mirror. Labia majora and minora (the lips or folds of skin that sit on either side of the vaginal opening) come in all shapes, sizes, colours and textures. Similarly clitoris' and their hoods (the skin that covers them) aren't uniform when one starts comparing. Penises are no different in that they're diverse in shape, size etc.

I believe porn can potentially distort a person's view of what genitals should look like. In fact I'm sure many men who watch porn are concerned that their penis isn't big enough (penis envy). They can also conclude that women are always more turned on by very well hung men. Men need to realise however that male porn stars don't possess a 'normal', or average, size penis. And the women in the films are acting!

Whilst some women prefer a larger penis it's generally not always about the size. There are many other factors that contribute to whether or not a woman has a great sexual experience with a man. Similarly for a man it's usually not about the look of a woman's vagina that contributes to his sexual satisfaction. Whilst some men may prefer the neat and ultra groomed look, others might prefer a woman with thicker outer lips or longer inner lips. I'm quite sure most however won't really care at all. What they will care about is what's attached! My point is I think women sometimes overly worry about what is the right look of a vagina. And it's this body insecurity and related anxiety that's fuelling the ever growing popularity of female genital surgery within Western society. Such procedures as labiaplasty, vaginaplasty, clitoral un-hooding, G-spot augmentation (using collagen) and hymen reconstruction (re-virginization) are becoming more mainstream and they're no longer the domain of porn stars or women who've given birth.

The most common procedures are labiaplasty (reshaping of the labia minora or inner lips, and sometimes the labia majora or outer lips, and/or reshaping of the clitoral hood) and vaginaplasty (removal of excess lining and tightening of surrounding tissue and muscles).

A few years ago at a buck's party I briefly chatted with a young stripper who was terribly embarrassed – and not because she was naked. It was the look of her vagina that had her deeply distressed. Whilst her outer lips were large it was the size of her inner lips than concerned her the most. They were literally a handful and if she were a man she'd be described as extremely well endowed!

She told me she hadn't seen many other vaginas other than those in glossy soft porn magazines like Penthouse and Playboy. And it was the viewing of naked women in these magazines that made her ashamed of the look of her vagina. She was adamant that when she could afford cosmetic surgery she was going to have her inner lips cut back to a 'normal' length. I tried my best to dissuade her from going under the scalpel although it was futile as she was determined that she absolutely needed the procedure. I explained to her that what she thought was normal was actually not the norm and that most women don't have vaginas that look like a credit card swipe. Australian government censorship dictates that most magazine images of vaginas are always airbrushed (edited) so they look like a thin line with no 'outie' bits (inner lips) showing. I was very concerned that a young woman had a distorted view on what she considered a normal vagina looked like – and in this case I blame government censorship!

Men often see other men's penises at a urinal or in places like the change rooms of gyms and they sometimes compare and contrast. The reality is that it's not a good place to compare as they're seeing penises in flaccid states. Some men are growers and some showers. The flaccid state of a man's penis isn't always an indication of how big it gets when fully erect. Women, unlike men, don't often get a chance to compare and contrast vaginas (nor would many want to). I can therefore understand why the young stripper at the buck's party thought she was a freak. I hope she didn't eventually have the labiaplasty as she was planning.

Houston is a famous Californian porn star and she's famous for a number of controversial reasons. In 1999 she performed in a film where she reportedly had sex with over 620 different men without a break (it sounds like another David Copperfield illusion). And in the same year she gained notoriety on The Howard Stern Show where during an interview she promoted the fact that she was having her labia surgically trimmed to enhance the appearance of her vagina during the filming of close ups.

Her infamy continued in 1999 when she broadcast her labiaplasty online and auctioned (via an online erotic auction site) the parts of her labia that were removed. She reportedly sold them for US$50,000! Oh but her PR machine didn't stop there – another appearance on The Howard Stern Show, post operation, saw her attend a prom with an 18 year old high school student who called in during the show. The prom date initiated a relationship between Houston and the student.

Houston was apparently a trailblazer for many women to consider labiaplasty!

I can understand how the pressures of western society have created a growing body obsession with women (something I don't advocate) but can it really extend to a quest for perfection of the vagina? Apparently so was the response from a close friend of mine who's a cosmetic surgeon performing labiaplasty in Perth. Prior to performing any procedure he counsels women on why they're considering surgery. And most women tell him they simply want it done because they feel it will enhance the appearance of their vagina. I still find it strange and even disconcerting that women would consider such an operation however I'm mindful that cosmetic surgery can often improve a person's confidence and self esteem.

Scott Taylor is a friend of mine who owns the Californian based adult film company New Sensations. I asked him if there was a vagina 'look' that was more popular with viewers of the films his studio produces. He responded with - "There are fans of all types. We have done particularly well with the tight, 'tucked in' and tidy look. But be assured that from bald to hairy, from tight to loose and from small lips to large lips, there will always be a fan".

Scott's comment "pussies that look as if a razor cut line was made into virgin flesh" had me somewhat perplexed as to why this look would be so popular with men. Maybe it gives the porn star a younger and 'fresher' look, but I'm not sure. I'd be interested to hear other's views on the appeal of this look.

Using Google I was appalled and somewhat disturbed to find a number of websites that featured forums with confused and self-loathing women lamenting about the look of their vaginas and in particular their protruding or lengthy labia. This included a teen sex education site, where distraught teenagers commented on how embarrassed they were that their inner lips hung too low or were irregular shaped or that they just hated the look of their vaginas. And I also found sites that not only featured before and after surgery photos of vaginas (where women wanted assessment and comment on their new look) but there are sites where women submit photos of their vaginas seeking feedback as to whether or not they should get nipped and tucked. I'm still shaking my head at the apparent need of some women to seek public opinion on the look of their vaginas.

New York City's Manhattan Centre for Vaginal Surgery specialises in cosmetic vaginal surgery. Their website says that some women are born with large or irregular labia whilst other women see a change in their labia after childbirth or with aging. They also note that women with large labia who wear tight clothing can experience irritation and discomfort especially with sport. After reading this I can understand why some women consider labiaplasty from a functional perspective rather than an aesthetic one; however I'm personally not an advocate of women undergoing cosmetic surgery purely to enhance the look of their vagina. In my opinion what's attached to a woman's vagina is far more important than the vagina itself.

I look forward to hearing your feedback on the contentious topic of designer vaginas.

Delivering passion and pleasure.

Mal

Chelle 12 February 2015 at 3:38 pm
Great post Mal, it's great to hear a man in this industry advocating against the vaginal self-criticism that is so sadly common among women these days. Also, "most women don't have vaginas that look like a credit card swipe". Hahaaaa!!!Chelle :)
That's me!! 12 February 2015 at 3:43 pm
I have this exact issue. I hate it. It was probably when as a joke a friend and I went into a porn shop on one Saturday night out for a giggle. There was a product with a picture of a woman standing on the front and her labia hung below her vulva and my friend mentioned how "gross" she thought it looked. Of course she wasn't to know that's how I look but ever since I loathe and have considered numerous times having the operation. What has held me back is my fiancé who says he doesn't mind and thinks it's unnecessary and an episode of embarassing bodies where a lady had had it done and the result was it was too small causing pain during sex plus issues when going to the bathroom (they actually help "funnel" the urine out of your body). However I would still dearly love to have it done so I looked normal...
Wodanson 12 February 2015 at 3:55 pm
I am appalled when some women say that their vulva is somehow deformed because they have prominent inner lips. To take a knife to a woman's genital area for any cosmetic reason is surgical vandalism. My personal preference is for outies. The bigger and meatier the inner lips, the more that I like them. I find the appearance to be highly erotic, especially when they are wrapped around a penis. Large inner lips also add to the sensation experienced through the penis.The Australian censorship regime has created this distorted view of what a woman's genital region is supposed to look like. I had to deal with the Office of Film and Literature Classification (OFLC) when I worked for an Australian adult publisher. The organisation was dedicated to the enforcement of arbitrary rules that appeared to have been created by sex-hating wowsers who were horrified by the thought that sex might be portrayed accurately, or that someone might actually enjoy it. One of my two personal favourite pieces of insanity was that we could depict spanking or whipping, but there could not be any marks on the person who was on the receiving end. Not even a red hand mark. My other favourite piece of insanity was the age of people depicted in porn. Consensual heterosexual sex in all states of Australia is legal at the age of 16. Yet, under the OFLC rules, we could not even hit that anyone had sex before they were 18. That meant that it was illegal to discuss or depict a lawful act. That is insane!
Colin 12 February 2015 at 4:13 pm
I love ❤ them as they come all shapes and sizes. Must admit though I prefer them with big lips. The credit card look leaves me cold.
Kristal 12 February 2015 at 4:49 pm
I found this post quite interesting, I feel like I've missed out on a whole new aspect of body paranoia, as I've never worried about how my vulva looked....ever. I do remember though when I found out for the first time that men were turned on by looking at the vulva and vagina, I was 18, very naïve and very stunned.
Maureen 12 February 2015 at 6:47 pm
You are surrounded by beautiful women every day so it's refreshing to hear you say that you are not an advocate of designer vagina's. The plain Jane's would think men with your Fifty Shades sexiness would want perfection from every angle. It's a misconception that a hot male would only settle for a seriously hot female with all her bits and pieces in the right places. I'm no oil painting, pushing 60 and overweight. But I have no desire to fix anything about me except to get in the pool and swim, in my mind it seems the prettier and richer you are the more insecure you become. The Hollywood botox, trout pout's, designer vagina's and multiple plastic surgery's is a tragedy. I think learn to love yourself or seek help from a professional, there is a lot going on in the world that needs our attention, "loose lips" is not one of them. Personally I think the credit card swipe is visually boring, everyone is unique in their own image. Sexy is a confident person who loves every inch of their body, insecure women need to pay more attention to the sexual experience. If the sex is mind blowing and the man is begging for more then who cares that your lips are too big and it looks like it has teeth. LOL, sorry couldn't help myself hehe!
Maria 13 February 2015 at 11:15 am
I don't get it. I would never think about 'nip and tucking' for no man. I love my body (to a degree) as it is. if my partner even dare make a comment about the size of my lips he would be out the door so fast. its what's on the inside that counts. these women who have this done must be so insecure and lacking confidence. I pity them. unless your 'flapping in the wind' I don't think these procedures are necessary.
Spudly 13 February 2015 at 3:32 pm
Nothing more sexy than huge luscious vagina lips I love feasting on them the bigger the better the hit with an axe look bores me and large clits are a bar
Dee 14 February 2015 at 8:41 am
Please...you are normal. Your self-loathing could become an issue down the road for any relationship you choose to engage in. If your lover finds you interesting, kind, funny, loving and generous then your vagina/vulva/labia are the perfect fit for you and him/her. If you find that part of your body is not 'normal' then you should spend ten minutes every day googling images of vulvas and labia until your brain eventually comes to the realisation that you're a beautiful woman with normal 'lady bits', cos we're all normal baby. Truly! :-))
Tam 14 February 2015 at 7:11 pm
Mal a fantastic piece. Although I used to be concerned after child birth how different my vagina looked I've decided it's a part of me. It's not how it used to look but I'm happy just being me!!! Girls be proud of your vjays vjays! They are as individual as finger prints
Veronica 15 February 2015 at 1:30 pm
My friend and me were comparing vaginas one day as we had a shower together random drunk night anyway she has one that is a inny all tucked away where I have one that is a outy she actually said to me ewwww yours is weird but I couldn't help and say so does yours as I really thought hers was weird being all tucked in,im happy to say I love mine and wouldn't change it ever and she is happy with hers I guess we had never seen other peoples vaginas up close before hahaha But to get plastic surgery done that's silly I would understand if your lips were hanging down like elephant ears than maybe get something done...
carla 16 February 2015 at 1:42 pm
I find it very sad that even something most people won't talk about can make them feel self-conscious.The entertainment industry(actors,singers,sports men and women,porn stars,etc)has a lot to answer for when those types of bodies and lives are considered 'NORMAL' or 'PERFECT' and people are willing to go under the knife to look the same.Very glad I'm not an insecure person!!
Ellen 21 February 2015 at 5:32 pm
I never even knew the extent to which people go with this. When I think about it I'm not surprised that the surgery exists or that it is so popular but it disappoints me to hear that it is so popular. I spend most of my days ignoring mainstream media because I hate seeing the largely impossible or stupid ideals that dominate so much of the media. I hate those crippling feelings that I am not beautiful or that I am not attractive or that I'm going to embarrass myself in public by my choice of personal presentation. To think that it extends to people's vulva horrifies me. I work with teenage girls and listening to them talk about themselves is scary, they think that they need a thigh gap. The problem is how do we fix it. How do I reassure these teenage girls that every single one of them is adorable. How do we fight the media?
Tayla 2 March 2015 at 4:20 pm
I love this post Mal! Women need to start loving their bodies and their vaginas. The anatomy of having more prominent labia minora is normal as vaginas come in all shapes and sizes, but having more pronounced labia has benefits. They filter urine out when you are urinating, they protect the vulva by covering the opening to the vagina, they wrap around the penis during sex adding extra stimulation and they contain nerve endings that provide sensation that could be lost if a girl decided to undergo labiaplasty. Love your vaginas ladies
peter59 17 March 2015 at 2:46 pm
I was at MONA a few weeks ago in Tasmania. The wall of vaginas was very interesting, but perhaps more so was peoples reaction. Most that I saw enjoyed the erotisism of what was before.
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