Asstronomical Ways to enjoy Anal

9 January 2018 8 comments

Our last article on Anal Sex certainly proved popular, with lots of comments and questions from those who indulge regularly, those who are a definite no, and those who were curious and would like to learn more. So, this time we're focusing on those who are new to backdoor loving with some helping tips on how to get started...

Asstronomical Ways to enjoy AnalAsstronomical Ways to enjoy Anal

1. Try it for the right reason - be inquisitive for yourself and not merely for your partner. Doing it for the right reason will help you relax and having an open mind often means having an open anus.

2. Relaxing your PC muscles - is the anal version of doing Kegels - the more relaxed you are the more likely you are going to enjoy it (just like vaginal sex). So ensure you’re feeling relaxed and sexy and that you're not merely doing it for your man or for validation of your femininity (which is something that can only be obtained from within you and not from any man).

3. Use a condom - whether you’re monogamous or not, protect yourself from contracting some nasty STIs. Even with the condom on - never double dip (going from anal to vagina). For those in the know, this can result in poogash. Bet you’re dying to try that.

4. The right lube is important - the skin of the anus is very thin and delicate. Unlike the vagina, the anus isn’t capable of providing its own natural lube so using the right lube is vital. Thicker Anal specific lubes won’t dry out as quickly as thin water-based lubes. Some people swear by Vaseline but personally I wouldn’t put that anywhere near my butt as it is a petroleum-based product. Desensitising gels such as Pjur Analyse Me! Anal Comfort Serum are also available although not being able to feel anything is not ideal either as you’ll have no way of gauging if there’s pleasure or pain. Failing to use lubricant, may lead to tears and tearing the inside of someone’s bum is incredibly impolite - so lube up!

5. Go slow and gentle - anal sex, especially for novices, must be approached with patience. The penetration will feel much deeper than with vaginal sex so it’s something the penis must ease into. Generally speaking the head of the penis is the widest part so getting the tip in will probably hurt the most.

6. It will feel like it, but it won’t be it - initially you will definitely feel like you are pooping but chances are you won’t be. This won’t stop you from turning around trying to spot anything brown that ought not to be there, but if you ensure your bowels are empty beforehand you really don’t have much to worry about.

7. Toys do help - hetero, bi and homosexual men and women are having a lot of fun with anal sex toys such as anal beads, butt plugs and strap-ons. It’s also a fantastic and popular way for straight men to explore anal stimulation without questioning their sexuality. You could use these neat sex toys whilst masturbating or during sexual play. Starting with small butt plugs and working your way up to the actual thing can help.

Many women find it easier to orgasm whilst having double penetration (DP) - inserting a smaller dildo or a G-spot toy in the vagina during anal sex can be incredibly erotic and enjoyable. The sensation is heavenly - I am officially qualified to vouch for that.

8. It generally does get easier and better with time - certain sexual adventures can be uncomfortable for beginners and may take time and practice till they result in pleasure. Massaging your anus from time to time might be a good way to relax the area.

After all that, maybe it’s just not up your (ahem) alley - it shouldn’t take you too many times before you realise whether anal sex is your thang or not.

What would be your #9? Let me know in the comments below!

If you would like even more information on exploring the joys of anal sex, has done some thorough research and compiled some great articles for you to read in their Buying Guides which cover in more depth topics such as Easing into Anal, Anal Hygiene and Anal Aftercare.

Written by Maggie May
Maggie May is a sexologist and a writer. She is a lover of all things sensual and sexual.

Colin 9 January 2018 at 9:06 pm
Anal was something that I considered only Gay people did. Having vaginal sex my partner used to have orgasms and I used to think that was enough for me . She came home from work and told me that one of her work mates asked if she did it. When she told me I said yes well for some that is there discretion. It was left alone for a while then one night we were into our usual she moved and grabbed it and put it against her anus and said fuck it. I enjoyed it but the orgasm from her with some squirting was a real eye opener and I have to admit a great fucking turn on. After the first time I felt what the fuck I liked that. She told me that she had always wanted to be ass fucked. And said when she was younger and masturbated she always touched her ass. So Don't hold back from each enjoy every moment life is to short for ego.
Maggie May 14 January 2018 at 7:58 pm
I love your sharing Colin. Life is, indeed, too short to dim our lights - shine that light as brightly as you can I say! You lady sounds like a keeper! Women, much like men, are different - what turns one on doesn't do a thing for another. It's the same with our private bits - some women have explosive orgasms only when their clitoris is stimulated, others only vaginally or anally and then there are those, like me, who are lucky enough to be able to orgasm with all three areas... But we all have our "go to" favourite spots. I am impressed that your partner took the initiative - that's quite rare. Enjoy your sex life - life is too short for a bad one!
Clean 26 January 2018 at 2:54 pm
What can I use to clean out anus before sex as don't want poo on a mans penis
Maggie May 31 January 2018 at 6:22 pm
Dear Clean,
Leaving stains is one of the biggest concerns women face when looking to have some anal play. Douches are a great place to start. Check out our site for many varieties, one of which is the Vulcanite Anal Douche ( I wouldn't use douching regularly, however, as it can disturb the delicate pH and bacterial balance in the anus. The douche cleans out the anus completely - the bad and the good stuff too and this can lead to other issues. It's best if you do anal after you have bowel movements. Generally speaking the anus doesn't store faeces for too long, so if you have already been to the toilet chances are you will probably be clean. Before you have anal sex, insert your index finger in your anus whilst showering and gently clean out any residue that may be left. I strongly recommend turning the lights off (sorry fellas!) or at least dimming them if you are concerned about any brown spots. Women tend to turn around every few seconds "to check" if the light is on, but if it's not they tend to relax a little more and it all flows easier. I hope this helps! Best of luck!
G 5 February 2018 at 7:52 am
I was always skeptical about anal sex but at beginning of the year i had a fling with a famous guy and he wanted to try anal so i did. I must say being super excited and aroused before hand helped and it wasn't as bad as i thought it would be. I was so sexy and feeling horny that when he started fingering my anus i liked it. We used lube and to be honest i couldn't tell much difference between his finger and his cock - and he is above average. I agree that dark dimmed lights make a difference. I really didn't think i would like it this much but it made me feel like a sexy girl which was hot. It didn't hurt and I wasn't worried about spotting as i went to the toilet before then. It wasn't sore or anything but at one point it was going too fast so i told him to slow down and of course he did. I will be trying it again for sure.
Maggie May 15 February 2018 at 7:26 pm
Sounds like you had an exciting night G. It is especially positive to hear that despite your partner's larger size, the two of you were able to have safe anal sex - SLOW and STEADY. It is not a fast pumping game this one. It is sensual and slow. Thanks for sharing, love your post!
Anna 6 February 2018 at 3:22 pm
Thank you for yet another great article. Always a great read. I find it comforting to know that other people have similar questions and concerns to me when it comes to this topic. I tried it for the first time last week and am now open to the possibility of doing this more regularly.
Maggie May 15 February 2018 at 7:28 pm
Thank you Anna. Anal seems to be a popular topic, one many people are uncertain about. You are definitely not alone!
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