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What size can the anus safely be stretched without causing any damage to the anus.
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In theory, it should be possible to stretch the anus as far as a vagina; however the anatomy of your bones prevents this from happening. Using a butt plug on a daily basis is a good way to get your sphincter muscles working, however a butt plug won't actually ...
View More"stretch" your anus; it simply teaches your pelvic floor and sphincter muscles to relax.
Despite a lot of fears and misconceptions, having anal sex will not lead to an enlarged or loose sphincter or anus either, or a loss of bowel control – it can have quite the opposite effect actually! In fact, according to author and director Tristan Taormino, "Being able to take something in your ass requires relaxation of the sphincter muscles, and like any other form of exercise, the more you use those muscles, the better shape they will be in. You will not lose control of your bowels; in fact, you may even have better bowel control as you'll be more in touch with that area of your body and more aware of your muscle control."
However you must remember to ALWAYS practice safe anal sex! Only ever use toys with a flared base or a wide handle so they don’t get lost in the rectum. Toys specially designed for prostate play have a handle and a perineum stimulator which act as an anchor, keeping the end outside where it should be, and they boast a super smooth shaft and seam-free head so nothing on the toy can tear or damage the sensitive tissue in the anal area, unless improperly used.
And remember, any type of anal penetration absolutely, positively needs lubrication because the rectum doesn't produce any natural lubrication of its own. You may therefore find a thicker lubricant most effective, possibly with a desensitizer in the formula. Water-based lube is generally the best choice for anal insertion because it won’t destroy latex or make condoms unsafe. If you’re with a new partner, or regularly use condoms as your contraceptive method, it's also a good idea to use a lubricated condom. And always put a new condom on if you switch from anal to vaginal intercourse to prevent the spread of bacteria to the vagina and keep a stash of condoms handy when playing with anal toys as they make cleaning up after sex a breeze!
Be sure to wash your anal toys before you use them for the first time and immediately after each use before putting them away to play with another day. Using an antibacterial wipe or vibe cleaner is just the thing for keeping all your sex toys safe, hygienic and in tiptop condition. adultshop.com stocks a number of tried and tested products which are ideal for the job, many of which are anti-bacterial, anti-viral and anti-fungal.
And do NOT insert anything large, straight, hard or sharp into the rectum. Remember the anus curves to the right quite dramatically - using short, bendy, soft toys accommodates for this fact. 4" is the ideal length for an anal toy. Used incorrectly long toys can tear the fragile anal tissues and/or wreak havoc with the lower intestines. You don't need big or long toys to fully enjoy anal eroticism.Simply try different positions and angles to see which is most comfortable and pleasurable. Relax, go slowly, be gentle and start small. Have fun and experiment with different types and methods of anal play and you're bound to find something you love! Finally, remember that anal play together with direct genital stimulation guarantees an explosive orgasm!
And of course, anal play should NOT be painful. Foreplay is important in any kind of sexual activity but particularly for anal play. In order to enjoy anal play the muscles that control the anal opening need to be relaxed. If anal play is painful or uncomfortable at any time - stop - and see your health professional if you experience any bleeding, cramping or prolonged pain.
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