But strap-on sex is definitely not just for "lesbian" porn -- nor is it about women playing at being men. With just a little erotic imagination, strap-ons can add novelty, excitement, playfulness and even a deeper intimacy to any couple's sexual repertoire. Trust us…going through the back door and conquering that last sexual frontier will be well worth it! So buckle yourselves in folks because, like the astronauts, it’s time for you and your partner to go where you’ve never gone before!

Debunking the myths
So what if you’ve teased him with your fingers and your tongue, but now he wants to go further? For some rear-end rookies, the common misconception is that anal penetration is for gay people to enjoy, however this is simply not true! Many men who are 100% heterosexual enjoy having their bum massaged, fingered and penetrated -- including penetration with strap-ons. Heterosexual men who enjoy recipient strap-on play are not secretly gay; they’re just heterosexual men who enjoy adventurous sex!

Women can also enjoy the power associated with wearing a strap-on dildo, particularly if it means giving their partner pleasure in a different way. Taking their bloke from behind can also give them a taste for how their fella feels doing it in the doggy position. This can be a liberating experience for many chicks as unlike their usual rear-entry position, he’s unable to see her, and she’s in control and dominating the pleasure.

Strap-on dildos are designed for couples who are daring to try something new, and for those willing to experiment with different ways to keep their sex life healthy and exciting. Offering a unique sensual connection between you and your partner, a harness and dildo kit is a great way to indulge in a spot of gender-bending and sexy role-play. So why not give your boy-toy the anal satisfaction he craves by strapping on the passion and sexploring your fantasies? We have a fabulous range of strap-ons for you to choose from, check them out here:

Hitching up
Generally speaking, a harness lets you strap a dildo onto your body so that you can penetrate your partner while keeping your hands free for other sexual activities. When saddling up for the first time you’ll notice that there are two basic models for harnesses – jock–style and thong harnesses.

Thong-style harnesses
Thong harnesses have one strap that goes around your waist or hips (depending again on what feels most comfortable), allowing for greater maneuverability and deeper penetration of your partner. The other strap goes between your legs and over your butt cheeks (like a thong), and attaches in back to the first strap, making it very easy to strap on and take off. The only disadvantage to this style is that the middle strap is not usually adjustable, so smaller women may find the middle strap too big. A major advantage of the thong-style harness however is that the dildo presses directly against your skin instead of against a pad, so you can experience the sensation of penetrating your partner while still enjoying clitoral stimulation. And the strap that runs between your legs can also provide you with vaginal and anal stimulation at the same time.

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Jock-style harnesses
Jock-style harnesses feature three straps. One strap goes around your waist or hips (depending on what feels most comfortable), while the other two straps attach to the sides of the front section of the harness, encircling your thighs and attaching at your waist. Jock-style harnesses can make you feel more in control of the dildo and more secure in the harness, and they’re generally more variable than thong-style harnesses, so large and small women are able to adjust the straps to suit their size. Also, jock-style harnesses don't cover up your own “openings”, so other toys or activities can be brought in to increase the excitement for both of you!

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Apply LOTS of lube to both your dildo and his bottom, and then gently rub the head of your dong against his opening. Wait for his anus to relax and open, then let him back onto your dildo, rather than you do the penetrating. Hold your dildo at the base and wait until the head (only) penetrates. Pause until he says it’s okay to go further and insert a little at a time, and very slowly! Once it’s all in, pause again, then start with some slow, gentle thrusting. Angle yourself so that you’re aiming for his belly button. And remember to stop regularly to apply more lubrication and to exit as slowly as you entered – go too fast and his muscles will tense and spasm.

Strap-on harnesses allow your hands to remain free during erotic coupling, so use them to knead his balls and stroke his perineum while you’re penetrating him. This will make him quiver involuntarily – which will add to the new and exciting sensations he’s already feeling.

Tips for the first-timer
Remember the more aroused he is, the less it will hurt initially (having an orgasm first might also relax him). Ask him to hold his bottom open and bear down (as if he’s trying to go to the toilet) – it will open up his anus. Tell him to breathe deeply, then back up so you can penetrate him just a little. If he starts to panic, tell him to try contracting his anal muscles voluntarily to give him a sense of control. And remind him to give you constant feedback. It may take a few sessions before he can accept your strap-on fully, so don’t rush him or apply any pressure on him to “perform”. And if at any time he tells you it feels painful, stop or at least take the stimulation back a notch! Remember - the key to anal pleasure is relaxation and lubrication! It may feel uncomfortable initially, but once you’re both relaxed and he’s thrown away all those old ideas he had about male sexuality, you’ll both soon be enjoying the ride.

The final word
Strap-ons not only open up new avenues in the bedroom, but they can also strengthen your relationship as you experiment and try different ways of pleasing each other. Many couples don't talk much about their sex lives; they just do it. Because strap-on sex encourages sexual experimentation, it’ll get you talking about how you want to enjoy these new possibilities, which can be highly arousing in itself!

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And remember that while strap-ons can definitely add a whole new dimension to your regular sexual routine, strap-on sex doesn't mean exclusively strap-on sex! Most couples who own strap-ons don't use them every time they play, but rather from time to time when they're in the mood. However you decide to use them, just be sure to keep an open mind, use plenty of lube -- and enjoy!