Playing with porn as a couple can sometimes be confronting for both him AND her! When indulging in porn together, our best advice is to see it for what it is; a visual turn on and an accessory to your lovemaking. If you prepare for this playtime together with a variety of adult erotica – some that she may like and others for your tastes alone – it's more likely you'll both get hot, watching and wanking together!
Whether you're venturing into the world of adult film for the first time or you're a skin flick veteran, the dazzling array of adult erotica available these days can be overwhelming. But if you're trying to convince your girlfriend to watch something racier than Sex and the City re-runs, read on...
Much of the feedback we receive here at adultshop.com about female friendly adult movies is that girls these days don't want your typical "porn" – skinny chicks with big boobs going for it! They want higher production values with sets and costumes, more story lines, less plastic, softer sex and realistic girls.
A survey of our customers has also revealed a developing trend that women are sick of their men disappearing to watch porn - they want to enjoy it too! Of course that means that porn needs to be produced to engage women, and more and more titles are being released with "couples appeal" for this reason.
When choosing adult erotica for the missus, movies with a female director can be a good place to start. Former adult star Celeste directs a lot of Digital Playground titles, including some major recent releases. Despite the fact that the majority of her titles fall within the "gonzo" category, her films typically have a playful, fun feel and she has a knack for choosing stars with good chemistry. Check out some of Celeste's latest releases here:
In fact there are a growing number of women in the adult film industry who are calling the shots from behind the camera. Some of them are offering up the standard mainstream stuff we've come to expect from porn, but others are working hard to create a different (female friendly) vision of sex and erotica. Directors such as Candida Royalle, Veronica Hart, Alexis Amore and Jill Kelly are all veterans in front of the camera, having starred in many, many adult films themselves in the 1970s and 80s.
Tristan Taormino is the award-winning author, columnist, editor, and sex educator responsible for the Vivid-Ed Expert series, including The Expert Guide to Fellatio, Cunnilingus, Anal Sex, the G-Spot and most recently, Positions. These titles are among the best instructional films on the market and, coupled with some very sexy examples, are guaranteed to teach you and your gal a few new tricks when it comes to getting down and dirty between the sheets! Check out our range of educational titles here:
Studios such as Digital Playground (run by female President Samantha Lewis) as another example have had great success providing a better sexual/porn experience for the female demographic. Ms Lewis has even been quoted as stating that approximately 40% of Digital Playground's business is women! Digital Playground has been responsible for many of our best sellers, including the Pirates franchise, Babysitters, Cheerleaders and Nurses. They also contract some of the hottest starlets in adult entertainment, including Jesse Jane, Stoya and Sophia Santi. You can check out titles starring Digital Playground's contract stars here:
The majority of Vivid Entertainment Group titles are also engaging for women. This studio produces a range of adult flicks from all porn genres and showcases women of every shape and size. The 40 Inch Plus franchise is a good example, as a (female) customer recently remarked in her review of one of these titles on our website: "Finally a DVD that doesn't have skinny chicks with fake tits to make me feel insecure!"
Many of Vivid's recent releases are shot on film which means they're miles ahead of video and digital productions. Some also feature lavish costuming and storylines which revolve around sexual tension and the relationships developing between their characters. Generally women are less tolerant of the ‘contrived' situations featured in porn. More often than not, it seems as though the people having sex on the screen don't even like each other! The old 'in, out, shake it all about' may be good enough for you, but your girlfriend will likely respond better to characters that genuinely want each other. And while it's probably a bit naive to expect Oscar-winning performances from all our porn actors, trust us; a little sexual tension goes a long way!
Vivid is also responsible for some of the big budget remakes, like the 1970s classic Debbie Does Dallas Again which has a good story line and stars 'real' looking women (not Barbie dolls). Check out other porn classics out of the vault here:
Obviously not all erotica designed to appeal to women has a storyline - but generally flicks directed by a female will typically show the girls genuinely enjoying themselves! Gianna Michaels is a good example of a starlet who appears to really enjoy her job, with the 'girl next door' look that usually appeals to women. Other famous adult actresses, such as Chloe and Belladonna, also have beautiful natural bodies and many of the titles they star in put the spotlight firmly on the woman being pleasured. Or your lady might like a movie featuring Sunny Leone for a refreshing alternative to the stereotypical porn star. Her breasts may be fake but at least the girl's got curves!
Many titles starring these and other ‘natural' adult temptresses can be found in our 'Erotica with Plot' section. Check them out here:
The popularity of this category comes from men and women wanting to watch a movie together which has a story rather than just ‘wham bam thank you mam! Couples-orientated erotica often includes 'rom-porn' featuring plots familiar to romance novels (think rich and passionate Mills & Boon romance crossed with the thrills and chills of vivid up-close-and-personal footage) – it's a win/win situation!
Many straight girls find their porn watching aspirations are stifled by the lack of hot male porn actors. Seeking out movies starring well-known hotties like Mr Marcus and sexy newcomer Jean Val Jean is guaranteed to please your lady. Unfortunately, you might have to negotiate on the musical soundtrack, although if the low-quality music in the majority of adult flicks drives your gal crazy, you could always turn down the volume and pop her favourite make-out CD on the stereo instead!
Inexplicably, it seems that gay porn actors are almost always handsome, but since most heterosexual couples don't get off on the Brokeback Mountain thing, you might want to try a movie from our Private movie collection instead. The majority of adult flicks out of this studio feature hot guys AND hot chicks having hot sex in some very exotic locations. Check them out here:
Over our years of selling adult erotica however, we've found that you can't always make assumptions about what women want from an erotic film. Some gals will enjoy a traditional couple's flick with a well-developed plot and lots of foreplay, while others are simply seeking an uninterrupted hardcore bonk-fest. Some women want performers with natural bodies. Others revel in the fantasy bodies of porn stars. But while many people assume that it's the boys who mainly get off on watching porn, it's a fact that many women do too. So don't give up...
Just be sensitive to the fact that she might find your porn collection a little objectionable, even underwhelming in the arousal stakes. Some girls are concerned that the women in adult flicks are competition they have to live up to with you. They worry that you're comparing them to the hot and horny harlots in these films or that you'll expect them to behave like a porn star – which can create some serious performance pressure!
And at the end of the day remember that not everybody likes to watch porn, and no matter what you do you can't make them -- it isn't for everyone. However, by following the tips and tricks above you'll score plenty of brownie points introducing your femme fatale to the joys of adult movies and she may even surprise herself by finding some that she really likes!